I have someone staying in my hotel tonight that made me think that this would be worth sharing here.
If you are running away/trying to hide from someone that is frightening, abusing, harassing you, and you find yourself staying in a hotel to avoid being found, there’s an extra precaution you can take.
When you check in, ask the front desk clerk to put you as “Unlisted”. They’ll know what you’re talking about. What this means is that as far as anyone other than you and the front desk clerks are concerned, you’re not there. If someone tries to call for you and your room, “I’m sorry. I don’t have anyone registered under that name.” Same thing goes for it someone shows up at the desk. “Unlisted” means you’re untouchable.
Please, please, if you find yourself in trouble and seeking refuge in a hotel, do this. It’s really quick, easy, and painless for the front desk clerk to do, and they are not going to judge you for it.
Please use actual words, not just code words. I work in a hotel and have NEVER heard of “Unlisted”. If someone were to come up to me and say that I would just look at you, confused, and ask for clarification.
Just flat out tell the front desk that you’re avoiding an abuser, if you say that you’re just avoiding something or someone, we may hesitate to comply, because you may be hiding from the police or law-enforcement. Please tell the front desk what you actually want us to do. Most places sign privacy/non-disclosure type agreements and if you say: “Hey, I’m hiding from a very bad situation and there might be some abusive people following me. Can you please either put me under a different name or make sure that no one contacts me?” we’ll do it and wont speak another word. Most places would even help you look up resources and try to get you transportation.
You can make it so most phones will be no contact, put up the do-not-disturb sign, and when shift change happens, if you’re still awake, tell the next person, because sometimes shift change is chaotic and important stuff can fall through the cracks. If you’re staying for multiple days, ask to speak with the general manager about your situation and they’ll make sure everything is enforced.
I worked at a hotel for almost 3 years, and I can confirm with the second post. You can additionally tell us at the front desk that no one is allowed to phone you, but you can phone out of your room.
Please do not be vague about it, we’ll likely think you’re up to something illegal. Just be upfront about it. No one’s allowed to see the guest list (or your name on the computer) besides the people working behind the counter, it’s a part of the confidentiality agreement.
Fuck I reblogged this before… Ignore that one. This is the right one
I can only agree to the second and third comment. I work in a hotel myself and I know from experience that it’s always best to be honest with us behind the counter. No one will send a person away who tells us that they are hiding from a bad situation but we WILL get suspicious if you’re vague and might not want to help you. If we’re supposed to trust and help someone they will have to tell us the truth. It’s as easy as that.
Btw, never heard of that stupid code-word myself.
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Hey everyone, before this post takes off any more here than it already has, I’d like to clarify that this story is fake. The only source I can find is Creambmp.com, which is a (very badly done) self-proclaimed “Parody and Satire” site.
This screencap was pulled from their incredibly scant About page.
I can’t find any source on this that doesn’t reference back to creambmp’s “article” as the source. In addition, that crusty old dude they used as the header for the article isn’t even Marc Brown. This is Marc Brown:
I’d just like to make this clear before the wrong idea spreads around too much. This kinda thing can fuck with people’s emotions pretty badly, especially if you grew up enjoying the show and his books a lot as a kid. It especially hurts since he seems like a genuinely nice person, as far as I can find.
Just imagine the uproar from mainstream society if it came out that people treated their dogs like they openly treat their autistic children.
“Puppy Forced Through Obedience Training Eight Hours A Day, Seven Days A Week.”
“Puppy Restrained And Punished To End Tail Wagging And Barking.”
“Puppy Has To Earn Food, Play Time And Rest By Doing Tricks Correctly.”
These headlines would make people angry, but this is just a couple examples of how the most widespread therapy for autistic children (ABA) abuses us and nobody bats an eye because our society has more compassion and empathy for animals than for autistic children.
Terrier puppy was given bleach enemas to cure his hyperkinesis.
I don’t care if Hillary Clinton is corrupt. I don’t care if she lies, if she cheats, if she eats bowls of newborn chipmunks for breakfast.
She is literally the only thing standing in the way of a fascist dictator becoming President of the United States with a Republican majority congress that guarantees he can do anything he wants and nothing will be able to stop him.
I was and still am a Bernie supporter, and I hate a lot of things about Clinton, but none of that matters anymore. If Trump is elected, people are going to die. Women are going to die when Roe v Wade is overturned and Planned Parenthood is defunded. LGBTQ people are going to die when conversion therapy is further legalized and more bathroom bills are passed. POC are going to die as Trump rounds up Mexican immigrants, gives more power to the police, and fuels the fires of Islamaphobia. Poor people are going to die as Obamacare gets overturned and further cuts are made to welfare programs. And that’s just in this country. That’s not even taking account the all-too-likely outcomes of Trump starting new wars in the Middle East and having control of nuclear bombs that he’s said he ‘would not rule out’ using.
This is no longer even about ‘the lesser of two evils’. This is not ‘scare tactics’. This is literally life and death. Don’t fuck around and tell me you’re voting third-party or not voting at all, because you don’t have that luxury.
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Text: The murder of an Autistic child, of any child, will never be about lack of services.
Pretending it is may be easier to swallow than acknowledging what it is really about. Each and every time.
Lack of love. Lack of humanity. Lack of respect for the sanctity of all human life.
There is ALWAYS another choice. And lack of services does not override the individual responsibility to make ANY other choice.
Not only that (and I was the first to ever say this) but it’s holding us hostage. It’s pointing a gun to the head of every autistic person, especially those of us who get or need services, and saying “We will kill them if you don’t give them services.”
Additionally, according to Dick Sobsey Ed.D.,, an expert on the abuse and murder of people with developmental disabilities, they did some research and found that when murders of disabled people are portrayed in the media as understandable for any reason, then the murder rate goes up. Period. That in itself should tell anyone who doesn’t want children murdered, that they’d better find some other way to press for services. Unless they don’t care if some children (and adults, because it happens to us too, including those of us already getting services, whose parents can’t bear the thought of us living away from them) get murdered along the way, in which case… seems fine to them anyway, if not those of us who might actually get murdered or lose friends to murder or care that people get murdered.
@withasmoothroundstone: Do you have any data from this Dick Sobsey Ed. D person? on the “ They did some research and found that when murders of disabled people are portrayed in the media as understandable for any reason, then the murder rate goes up. Period.” part?
I am so fucking sick of all of the tumblrinas and SJWs on this site talking about how suddenly they’re all fucking autistic. My older brother by two years, who I’m VERY close to actually has the disease and I watch him struggle with it EVERY DAY. It is heart breaking, it is frustrating, it is a very emotional journey because of how it affects his life, and how other people have THREATENED HIS LIFE because he missed too many social cues. He’s the biggest sweet heart in the world and his problems are diminished by special little snowflakes like you mother fuckers who love throwing really heavy labels around like they mean nothing. You all just don’t want to face that you’re acting like fucking children who need to grow up, so you give the world all of these reasons why you can’t.
People like my brother aren’t the only ones you’re hurting, every sickness that you pin on yourself like it’s some kind of facebook “what character are you?” test that you take until you get the answer you want hurts the people who are actually suffering.
What’s worse is that you don’t even care. You cling to excuses like “OMG YOU MUST BE WHITE AND CIS AND YOU DON’T HAVE THESE THINGS SO YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND OUR STRUGGLE”, when in reality I have a better idea than you ever fucking will. Autism is not a joke, it is not a toy, and it is not some cute idea you can subscribe yourself to to seem unique.
Many people with autism will never be able to live outside of the care of another person. Many people with autism have bouts of anger at their own brains for not being able to understand that they beat themselves. Many people with autism yearn for love and friendship that they may never have, but never mind that because one time you went to a birthday party and were left out and sometimes music feels too loud.
Fuck you. Fuck you so much, if I ever meet one of you in person I will punch you the fuck out.
If you feel in your heart of hearts that you really do have 18 different mental illnesses, then go get yourself tested and diagnosed. Become apart of a community that will help and guide you through life so you don’t have to be a victim.
Otherwise, take a step back and yes, for once actually think about how lucky you are to NOT have to honestly deal with this hardship.
How DARE you. How DARE you speak for us. How DARE you come into our community without any invitation and treat us like we are some strange beast with a horrible disease who are lesser than you. You are not autistic. You do not understand us. You do not speak for us. You have NO RIGHT to invade the #actuallyautistic tag with your ableist, racist, and classist bullshit. You need to sit down and step back into line. We are not a disease, and you have no right to treat us like one. So sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up.
He/she never said you were lesser or horrible or anything of the sort. She simply said (I’ll admit, with some excessively harsh words) that autism is a disorder with real consequences for sufferers and the people around them. There is a movement in the social justice community at the moment that looks at disorders as simply different ways of thinking, which is hurtful to those who have the disorders and desperately want treatment and support. I really don’t see how any of that is racist or classist or anything similar. OP may not be autistic but having a sibling with any disorder usually provides a lot of insight into the typical patterns/behaviour and, if they have a good relationship, the thoughts hopes and dreams they have as well.
Also in response to your claims that she called autistic people strange beasts or horrible, she actually explicitly said she thought her brother was a complete sweetheart and seems to love him a lot. It is probably because she loves him that she is so upset by people minimizing the seriousness of his condition. There is a difference between, as you stated it, “being” a disease, and having a disease. Many people have diseases and disorders and they are just as worthy and deserving of love as anyone.
Lastly, stating your opinion with any tag is not invading. OP was making a post about autism so putting an autistic tag on it makes perfect sense.
I hope you are okay and that you understand where I’m coming from. Please let me know if you ever need anyone to talk to. You (like OP and her brother) are a beautiful human being and are very loved. ❤
Umm…putting an #autism tag on it makes perfect sense. Not the #actuallyautistic tag though.